Marc and Laurie came to couples counseling in crisis. Marc uncovered that Laurie was having an affair that spanned many years and he was furious....
21.102020October 20, 2020
Lost and found
Amy and Julian were married for over three decades. They were quite disconnected and questioned whether to continue the marriage. The kids were adults now,...
14.102020September 9, 2020
Erosion and Explosions
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Connection, Disconnected, Erosion, Obstructions
Some couples gradually lose their connection with each other—erosion. This tends to happen with more established couples when the stresses of life, e.g., work or...
07.102020September 9, 2020
Different Thoughts
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Details, Judging, Respect
Meg has a creative mind. It moves from one thought to another, but doesn’t always connect the dots. She sees things holistically, but may miss...
30.092020September 9, 2020
Under the Influence
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Alcohol, Alcoholic, Attacks, Defensiveness
When a couple has a partner who struggles with alcohol use, many spouses tend to attack the struggling partner. When the struggling spouse feels attacked,...
23.092020September 9, 2020
Culture Wars
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Anger, Cultures, Tone
When working with couples from different cultures, it is important to be sensitive to their cultural expectations of a relationship, but also help them to...
16.092020September 9, 2020
Confronting Faults
Sharon and Bob were feeling distressed about moving. When Sharon vented her stress, Bob thought her irritation was being directed toward him. Bob turned toward...
09.092020September 9, 2020
Essential Conversations
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Conflict, Couples Counseling, Escalation
Successful couples know how to discuss issues without escalating. If they do escalate, they may be able to repair conflict as it’s occurring. If not,...
01.072020September 9, 2020
Amend the Agreement
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Agreements, Communication, Priorities
Over the weekend, Jessica agreed that she would call the contractor on Monday. When Tony asked about it on Tuesday, he was upset that she...
24.062020September 9, 2020
From My Couch to Yours
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Escalation, telehealth, virtual counseling
During the pandemic, a number of couples doubted the efficacy of telehealth. Some couples who I saw pre-pandemic chose not to continue until we could...