When I ask couples what they find attractive about each other, I love the occasional response, he or she makes me a better person. Let’s...
16.022022January 28, 2022
No Big Deal
One of the comments couples can make is “It’s no big deal.” I find men more likely to make this comment than women. The problem...
09.022022February 2, 2022
Staying in Love
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples TherapyTags Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, Four Horsemen, Respect, Responsiveness, Stonewalling
When you meet the right person, falling in love is easy. Almost all committed relationships have the experience of falling in love. This other worldly...
02.022022February 2, 2022
Bestie
When I ask couples what’s attractive about their partner, I occasionally get the answer, he or she is my best friend. What characterizes best friends...
26.012022January 25, 2022
Forgiveness
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage CounselingTags Change, Disconnected, Dismissive, Forgiveness
I’m currently working separately with two couples in which the husband mistreated the wife. With one couple, the husband tended to be critical and dogmatic....
19.012022January 11, 2022
Sacred Space
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Connection, Listening
Erica and Elliott were making nice progress in couples counseling. Fewer negative incidents occurred in between our sessions. Erica wanted to work more on her...
12.012022January 11, 2022
Filtered Conversations
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Emotional Support, Listening
Amy and Jack reported that they had a four hour “unfiltered “conversation since their last couples counseling session. I knew unfiltered was not good, e.g.,...
15.122021December 15, 2021
An Unwilling Participant
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage CounselingTags Communication, Conflict, Disconnected
A man recently called me because he and his wife were having marital problems. His wife was refusing to come to marriage counseling, but he...
09.122021December 9, 2021
Honeymoon Blues
Jen shared a story in couples counseling. When she and Jay were on their honeymoon, Jay talked to another woman for over an hour. Jen...
17.112021November 16, 2021
Lost in Translation
By Dr. Richard ReinIn Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship CounselingTags Communication, Emotional Support, Needs
In our last couples counseling session, Sherry shared that she is still not getting her needs met, such as affection. She wants Dennis to ask...