Keri had just lost her job and Adam was concerned. Keri had a history of depression and he thought this event would reignite her depression. He didn’t want to bring up how she was doing in fear of setting off her depression. 

In our couples counseling session, Keri shared that she wanted him to inquire about her well-being. Adam said he was reluctant because he didn’t want to “stir up negativity.” Keri assured him this wouldn’t be the case. She had a lot on her mind as she began to look for work and was also deciding whether to start her own business. She wanted to share her thoughts, ideas and feelings.

Adam said that when he struggled, he needed space and assumed the same for Keri. She assured him that his inquiry would make her feel cared for.