“My loneliest moment is lying next to you” is an actual quote. It’s painful to hear the level of despair this woman feels for her husband. This couple couldn’t resolve their issues on their own and grew more and more distant over time. Earlier in the relationship, conflict overwhelmed their interactions. Growing weary of these conversations, the couple eventually avoided them (the withdraw-withdraw pattern). Their physical intimacy became non-existent.

It may appear to an outsider that this couple needs to spend more time with each other. But if the couple talks authentically with each other, they will soon get caught up in the former conflicts they were avoiding. This couple needs to discover new ways of resolving their underlying conflicts in order to restore their connection.