Sometimes couples can move quickly through couples counseling. It’s not rare for committed young couples, and it’s currently occurring for a couple in their seventies.
These couples, like most couples, were never taught the skills to be successful in a relationship. Since couples working with me do a lot of their learning through reading, sometimes the reading is enough, and they don’t require much practicing their newfound skills in couples counseling.
The challenge for couples who change quickly is to maintain their gains. Spreading out the sessions encourages this. We want the new healthy patterns to become so ingrained that there is no going back.