Carol and Dave are approaching retirement and are trying to figure out where to live. Their adult children are settling down and having kids themselves....
Relationship Resources Blog
Each day my life is enriched by listening to and guiding couples as they bring their raw experiences to sessions and we try to make sense of difficult times. Through these blog posts, I hope to give readers a snapshot of our work including examples of the real issues that people bring, and how we can find meaning and a path out together. Their identities are protected, but each experience is real. Because relationships are complex, my role is to help couples share their experiences while providing a conceptual road map to understand their experiences, finding a way out of the woods of painful experiences. This blog shares stories and concepts; I hope it provides hope, insight and richness to each reader’s own journey.
I Love You But I’m Not In Love
“I love you but I’m not in love with you” is a familiar refrain in couples counseling. This comment can create anxiety for a partner...
Turning Point
Couples counseling primarily provides real time feedback to couples when they are communicating in session. Their newly learned skills eventually slip into their communication between...
At Fault Again
Ann and Jeff were sitting down for dinner when Jeff took a call from his father. His father was dealing with an urgent situation and...
Turning a Corner
Jeff and Diane were in trouble. Diane was questioning whether to continue the marriage. Jeff was critical and she had enough. In couples counseling we...
Desperation to Joy
I’ve been meeting with Kirsten and Adam in couples counseling for a few months now. As they are progressing, Kirsten shared that they have moved...
My Better Half
When I ask couples what they find attractive about each other, I love the occasional response, he or she makes me a better person. Let’s...
No Big Deal
One of the comments couples can make is “It’s no big deal.” I find men more likely to make this comment than women. The problem...
Staying in Love
When you meet the right person, falling in love is easy. Almost all committed relationships have the experience of falling in love. This other worldly...
Bestie
When I ask couples what’s attractive about their partner, I occasionally get the answer, he or she is my best friend. What characterizes best friends...
Forgiveness
I’m currently working separately with two couples in which the husband mistreated the wife. With one couple, the husband tended to be critical and dogmatic....
Sacred Space
Erica and Elliott were making nice progress in couples counseling. Fewer negative incidents occurred in between our sessions. Erica wanted to work more on her...