Alyssa initiated couples counseling when she was questioning whether to continue her marriage. She was quite withdrawn from her husband Tim. Tim was constantly critical...
Relationship Resources Blog
Each day my life is enriched by listening to and guiding couples as they bring their raw experiences to sessions and we try to make sense of difficult times. Through these blog posts, I hope to give readers a snapshot of our work including examples of the real issues that people bring, and how we can find meaning and a path out together. Their identities are protected, but each experience is real. Because relationships are complex, my role is to help couples share their experiences while providing a conceptual road map to understand their experiences, finding a way out of the woods of painful experiences. This blog shares stories and concepts; I hope it provides hope, insight and richness to each reader’s own journey.
A Trail of Hurt & Regret
Patrick shared in his last couples counseling session that all of their relationship problems were from him. He acknowledged that he didn’t filter his words...
Calendar Meetings
Relationships are filled with negotiations. One of those negotiations is about time. In a recent couples counseling session, Gary and Victoria talked about how their...
Pin Pricks
John and Mary have been married for a couple of decades, with their oldest going off to college and their youngest starting to look for...
I’m Not Angry
In a recent couples counseling session, Christine insisted that Danny was angry and he was emphatic that he wasn’t angry. Christine persisted that he was...
Heard Feelings
Andrea could feel overwhelmed at times by the demands of young kids, including an infant, in addition to her working. The kids struggled more than...
Being Coached
In our last couples counseling session, April shared a number of incidents with which she took issue. In the first incident, April felt Tim was...
Male Vulnerability
In our couples counseling session, Anthony talked about feeling distressed. When his wife Trisha inquired, he shared that his co-worker’s father recently went missing. This...
Boosted
Once couples finish couples counseling, the majority of couples don’t need to return. Most address their current issues and learn the skills to address future...
Safer Being Themselves
Tammy and Ben were making a lot of progress in couples counseling. They were addressing the disconnection that pervaded their relationship. Tammy talked about holding...
Best Ever
Jayme and Steve are in their early thirties and have been married several years. They met through mutual friends when in their mid-twenties. I could...
Of Course I Love You
Anna said she was unhappy in her marriage—disinterested, disconnected and slightly checked out of her marriage. She said her needs were not being met in...