Cindy is a collegiate coach. She works long hours, especially in season. She enjoys working with student athletes, motivating them to achieve. Her husband Ron...
Relationship Resources Blog
Each day my life is enriched by listening to and guiding couples as they bring their raw experiences to sessions and we try to make sense of difficult times. Through these blog posts, I hope to give readers a snapshot of our work including examples of the real issues that people bring, and how we can find meaning and a path out together. Their identities are protected, but each experience is real. Because relationships are complex, my role is to help couples share their experiences while providing a conceptual road map to understand their experiences, finding a way out of the woods of painful experiences. This blog shares stories and concepts; I hope it provides hope, insight and richness to each reader’s own journey.
The Move
Ross and Debbie moved from out West and were deciding whether to return. Ross said, “I told you I appreciated you moving out here.” Because...
It’s Not a Big Deal
“It’s not a big deal.” This is not an uncommon statement in couples therapy (more frequently expressed by men), however the statement is a big...
The Showerhead
Tom and Alicia were rehabbing a bathroom and needed to decide on the fixtures. Alicia shared the plumber’s suggestion of showerheads and Tom researched the...
The Wanderer
Matt recently retired; but began leaving the house, saying he was checking his Post Office box, but not returning for hours. Lisa wasn’t sure where...
The Wedding Hotel
Mark was making plans to be at his best friend’s wedding. It was a flight away and the hotel where the wedding was being held...
What’s Wrong
“What’s wrong?” These two words reveal the importance of tone of voice in communication. In a caring tone of voice, the words will be experienced...
Emotional Support
Liz experiences her emotions intensely, moving from joy to despair. Her family of origin was able to support her emotionally and now she looks to...
The Controlling Husband
Tony was a controlling guy. He had subtle ways of controlling Elana about which he was clueless. He even attempted to control her thinking. Underneath,...
Criticism and Defensiveness
In order to resolve the inevitable differences that couples experience, they need to be able to talk openly about issues without criticism or defensiveness. When...