What Our Clients Are Saying
Just wanted to let you know there’s been marked improvement after just one session. It was difficult to say all the things I had to say but helpful that you were there as a third-party.
My husband also feels encouraged. Even though it’s difficult to deal with these things, I think it will be extremely helpful, especially in light of our family issues. There were a few instances where he already rephrased things and I responded positively. During this Thanksgiving season we are thankful for you.
When my husband and I started seeing Dr. Rein, we thought our relationship might not work because our personalities were too different.
We had been seeing another marriage counselor for over 6 months and that just wasn’t working. Looking back, our first marriage counselor felt more like a referee. My husband and I would discuss our fights and she’d let us know which one of us was being reasonable and which one was being unreasonable; then we’d discuss our different upbringings to determine why each of us felt the way we felt.
Those methods never moved us forward. Dr. Rein never felt like a referee; he felt like a coach. If my husband felt unappreciated, it was taken as a fact; it wasn’t debated. The goal was to understand how I could express my appreciation because what I was saying or doing wasn’t working.
If I felt hurt by something my husband said, it was taken as a fact; it wasn’t debated or determined to be an unreasonable feeling. The goal was to help my husband understand why I felt hurt and to help him communicate his feelings in a way that wasn’t hurtful to me.
After working with Dr. Rein our personalities haven’t changed but our communication has and that has made all the difference. My husband and I still have disagreements, but we know how to keep them from escalating to relationship-harming blowouts. We are much more capable of expressing our wants and needs while still expressing how much we truly care for each other. I feel like we have “us” back. We have found our friendship again; we have fun all the time and enjoy each other again. I am so incredibly grateful for Dr. Rein’s help in saving our relationship.
I often think about how you helped us through our troubled time and just want to thank you again. Our relationship has grown better and better by the years because of our meetings with you, learning to communicate, and of course staying out of trouble on my end.
Last year, I took our whole family on safari and I surprised her with renewing our vows in the Kalahari Desert at sunset. She’s the best thing that ever happened to me and you helped open my eyes to what I really had, because at the end of the day, she really wasn’t the cause. I sincerely want you to know that I doubt we would still be together without your help. Just so you know, anyone I talk to who has relationship issues, you’re the number I give them. Not sure if you see any of them, but for their sake, I hope so.
I just wanted to say that I enjoy the blogs that you've been sending and let you know that we are so grateful for your help. The "marathon sessions" were the best! That may have been more than a year ago, maybe two, but our relationship is still benefiting from the things you taught us.
Now, when one of us gets upset about something, it's not a world-ending downward-spiraling catastrophe (and that's a relief in itself!), but instead we can get ourselves out of it and even laugh together! It's been great and we say all the time that we're so thankful for you.
I can't say enough about what Dr. Rein has done for my husband and I. We love each other very much but we were having some difficulties communicating with one another and decided it would be beneficial to get some counseling.
Dr. Rein came highly recommended and of course it was hard to go to our first appointment, but over time we have achieved great success! We have learned quite a lot about each other and ourselves as well. We have a much greater respect for each other as individuals and a newfound love for one another.
We have learned a very difficult skill, which is effective communication, that we have made great strides in. We are not perfect as we are human but we can now recognize that it's not just what we say but also how we say it that can alter the outcome of our discussions which can quickly escalate into an argument.
Dr. Rein is patient and unbiased which makes us feel that he is not taking sides and instead listens to our topics and reflects his thoughts in a non-judgmental manner. Thanks to Dr. Rein and his calm, kind and caring demeanor, he has taught us valuable lifelong skills that has significantly improved our marriage, our relationships with others and our overall happiness. Thank you Dr. Rein!